(c) 2010 Howard McQueen
The pleaser in us
also wanting to avoid conflict,
can quickly cover over our authenticity,
call steal our voice to speak clearly,
to clearly and succinctly represent
our own needs and requirements.
The insecure pleaser places the needs of others
ahead of the welfare of the self.
This can undermine vitality, always keeping self
out-of-center.
The pleaser also projects a false sense of self to others,
creating the smoke and mirrors of distortion and confusion.
Living intimately in relationship with others
requires that we develop our own clarity of voice
to explicitly and succinctly state our wants and needs.
This is especially true when we seek to work through the
inauthenticity that will challenge intimacy.
We need only learn to tell ourselves what is true,
even if it seems painful (at the time).
Those who offer a depth of friendship,
a caring and a maturing love
can see through this pleaser camoflage
and encourage us to become true to ourselves.
This is one way to become true to yourself
and learn to project the truth outward to others.
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