Below are replies from others on another site where I post my blog entries
#1
Of the list, numbers 3 and 4 certainly apply to me - and it is not in spite of those things, but rather, because them that I am who I am... and for that I am grateful.
Your insights about the inner child, and specifically the difference between intellectually and emotionally understanding are important.
It's relevant to note that many emotions become trapped PHYSICALLY in our bodies. So no amount of psychological work will ever fully heal our inner child until we can also release that energy in a physical way.
For some people, combining psychological work with deep tissue body work has been helpful.
In my experience, there's a relatively quick process to release inner-child issues... and this comment I'm writing will probably inspire a full blog post about this topic.
Though simple, it's not easy because it requires being totally present and willing to go into "the hole."
(1) Psychologically identifying the trapped inner child emotions
i.e. "I feel rejected. I have felt rejected all my life. Specifically, I'm angry at my mother for rejecting me."
(2) Physically embodying the trapped emotions.
What does it feel like to be rejected? Do I curl up in a ball? Do I put my hands in my head? Do it.
(3)Psychologically exploring what we intellectually believe to be the healing of those issues.
"I'm not really rejected now. I know my mother loved me the best she could. And the people in my life do care about me. Beyond that, I can choose how I want to be in the world - and I know that people are not rejecting me personally, but that they are rejecting their ideas of me."
(4) Physically embodying that new understanding.
Standing up, arms outstretched. Or flexing my biceps... or anything else that arises -naturally- as an expression of embodying the new way of being.
~~~~~
This type of physical embodiment process is extremely powerful, and is one of the quickest ways to align our "intellectual" understanding of our inner child with an experiential transformation of who we are and who we aspire to become.
It's also 10x more powerful when done in the presence of others... particularly small groups of 5 or 10 people.
#2
Hi Howard....great insight. I resonate with #4. It is the only abuse I ever remember in my young life, and it was mental. My brother constantly told me I was stupid. He was 3 years younger. I forgot about this as I went about my life. As I grew up this affected me in many ways. I was afraid to raise my hand and ask questions, because I did not want anyone to laugh at me. I kept silent and let my mind drift quite a bit. I became social, which I still am. I love people, but I don't like making mistakes, if avoidable. Learning has been a challenge for me in some areas, because I shut myself down, so I would not get hurt. I felt most people were smarter than me.
A few years ago, my husband and I were taking one of the many seminars we took with T. Harv Eker. During a process to unlock obstacles, I had recall of my brother always calling me stupid, and everything clicked into place. He has passed on now, but I forgave myself, my brother, along with the cause, effect and memory of it. You see, I used to hit him because he would follow me around like a puppy and I did not want him to hang around all the time. No one hit in my family, don't know why I did! I hit him in the back - not hard, but it must have devastated him. His only defense was to tell me I was stupid. We were never real close, but we became so when he was dying. He told me the best part about dying, was that he got to know me. That makes me cry even now.
As this all came together for me, I decided to make some changes that would make a difference in my life. I quit telling myself that I was stupid, or could not talk like a college graduate, etc. All that negative monkey mind talk. That is why I started writing and built a blog at Living in Courage. I needed to write all my life. Instead,I hid all of it under the bed. My passion is writing...now I am following my heart. I wrote an e-book and now I am writing my first book. Oh, and I have never hit another person......I send love to my brother Ted now and always.
This little boy inside is feeling quite vulnerable, and these words you speak are so very reassuring. Tomorrow it is, One who helps to define the felt sense of Preciousness!
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#1
Of the list, numbers 3 and 4 certainly apply to me - and it is not in spite of those things, but rather, because them that I am who I am... and for that I am grateful.
Your insights about the inner child, and specifically the difference between intellectually and emotionally understanding are important.
It's relevant to note that many emotions become trapped PHYSICALLY in our bodies. So no amount of psychological work will ever fully heal our inner child until we can also release that energy in a physical way.
For some people, combining psychological work with deep tissue body work has been helpful.
In my experience, there's a relatively quick process to release inner-child issues... and this comment I'm writing will probably inspire a full blog post about this topic.
Though simple, it's not easy because it requires being totally present and willing to go into "the hole."
(1) Psychologically identifying the trapped inner child emotions
i.e. "I feel rejected. I have felt rejected all my life. Specifically, I'm angry at my mother for rejecting me."
(2) Physically embodying the trapped emotions.
What does it feel like to be rejected? Do I curl up in a ball? Do I put my hands in my head? Do it.
(3)Psychologically exploring what we intellectually believe to be the healing of those issues.
"I'm not really rejected now. I know my mother loved me the best she could. And the people in my life do care about me. Beyond that, I can choose how I want to be in the world - and I know that people are not rejecting me personally, but that they are rejecting their ideas of me."
(4) Physically embodying that new understanding.
Standing up, arms outstretched. Or flexing my biceps... or anything else that arises -naturally- as an expression of embodying the new way of being.
~~~~~
This type of physical embodiment process is extremely powerful, and is one of the quickest ways to align our "intellectual" understanding of our inner child with an experiential transformation of who we are and who we aspire to become.
It's also 10x more powerful when done in the presence of others... particularly small groups of 5 or 10 people.
#2
Hi Howard....great insight. I resonate with #4. It is the only abuse I ever remember in my young life, and it was mental. My brother constantly told me I was stupid. He was 3 years younger. I forgot about this as I went about my life. As I grew up this affected me in many ways. I was afraid to raise my hand and ask questions, because I did not want anyone to laugh at me. I kept silent and let my mind drift quite a bit. I became social, which I still am. I love people, but I don't like making mistakes, if avoidable. Learning has been a challenge for me in some areas, because I shut myself down, so I would not get hurt. I felt most people were smarter than me.
A few years ago, my husband and I were taking one of the many seminars we took with T. Harv Eker. During a process to unlock obstacles, I had recall of my brother always calling me stupid, and everything clicked into place. He has passed on now, but I forgave myself, my brother, along with the cause, effect and memory of it. You see, I used to hit him because he would follow me around like a puppy and I did not want him to hang around all the time. No one hit in my family, don't know why I did! I hit him in the back - not hard, but it must have devastated him. His only defense was to tell me I was stupid. We were never real close, but we became so when he was dying. He told me the best part about dying, was that he got to know me. That makes me cry even now.
As this all came together for me, I decided to make some changes that would make a difference in my life. I quit telling myself that I was stupid, or could not talk like a college graduate, etc. All that negative monkey mind talk. That is why I started writing and built a blog at Living in Courage. I needed to write all my life. Instead,I hid all of it under the bed. My passion is writing...now I am following my heart. I wrote an e-book and now I am writing my first book. Oh, and I have never hit another person......I send love to my brother Ted now and always.