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Life has its way of bringing us into contact with people who challenge us with their differences.


We tend to gravitate toward people who are the most like us, at least in the ways that make us feel comfortable. But life has its way of bringing us into contact with people who challenge us with their differences. It may be an obvious difference reflected in their outward appearance or an invisible but powerful philosophical stance, but even in our closest circle of friends and family, there are those that confront us with their different ways of experiencing and expressing life. We can choose to resist , but we can also choose to learn from them and appreciate that they too have a place in the kaleidoscope of life.

As much as we may say that we want peace and quiet and a life without struggle, the truth is that human beings are, at this time, thriving in a world of dualities and challenges. It is how we choose to approach these hurdles that determine if we sail over them, confirming our agility, or trip and end up face down in the dust. And each of us absolutely will and must stumble, and then get up, brush the dust off and carry on. This is how we learn and grow, developing depth of character and shades of understanding. In a world of dualities, we have trouble defining ourselves without something opposite, and can't discover who we are. Without challenge, there is nothing to do and nothing to discover. That leaves us either in a state of non-being or the state of pure spirit, but as humans, we are spiritual beings experiencing the physical world in all of its startling contrast and beauty.

No matter how spiritual we are, our lives will have challenges. We will always run into people that are different that we are, but the true challenge may be in finding ways to be at peace with this process. Rather than give in to the fight or flight response that comes from our animal nature, we can find new ways to evolve together into higher more beautiful expressions of ourselves, realizing, embracing and celebrating the beauty of diversity and the strength it offers for the future.


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ANAHATA

Version 2.0
(C) 2010 Howard McQueen

Anahata, the heart-center of community,
the one family
united
and wounded,
all coming together
in the pressure cooker of extended family.

Sharing from the inside out
an emerging trans-personal integrity,
constantly pressing against boundaries,
threatening all personally-held senses of safety and security.

Anahata, where
process structure and control
and radical independence
are freight trains speeding, seemingly toward collision.
Come step into the fire
and be forever altered,
your spirit inexplicably infected,
with the great love and compassion of her founder
and this entire experimental family,
we lovingly chant into the mystery,
her name --- Anahata.


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SOMETHING EXTRAORDINARY

(c) 2010 Howard McQueen

Something extraordinary is happening.
You and I and others are awakening.
Realizations are blooming in a sacred space,
finding their way through personal and collective
mind numbing and heart restricting patterns.

What is alive, what allows us to tap into this sacred space
is known to us as flowing, healing, living Grace.
Faith is required to maintain the sacred healing power of Grace.
For our humanity to heal, to integrate, to evolve,
we encourage each other to consciously choose to nourish and incubate,
by every small and seemingly mundane choice,
each contribution and interaction we shape
our collective, evolutionary experience.

Will we breed old patterns of fear and confusion?
or will we speak our most radical, deepest truths,
and dis-empower what suffocates,
what gags and constricts us,
what sleight of mind we allow to continually rob us
of right action?

Bring forward our wise elders
let us teach from right action.
Let us be responsible (response able) to our fear and aggression.

I will meet you in this container of collective Grace,
where we can release old patterns and
recover our wholeness,
our collective we-ness
and share in the heart-felt intent
as we spread the spirit of abundant Grace.



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THE INVITATION

From The Invitation, by Orion Mountain Dreamer


It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.


It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.


I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.


It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithlessand therefore trustworthy.


I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.


I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”


It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.


It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.


It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.


I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

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PASSIONATE AGREEMENTS THAT ENCOURAGE UNITY

This morning I sat down and began to write about a common vision for community. My sense of community is focused around inner growth and developing unity.


This draft has omitted the important financial and labor contribution components.


So, below is a very early rough draft.


I am wondering if anyone else has any visions they would be willing to share? If so, please send these to howard@mcq.com.


**** COMMUNITY ****


We affirm, through our conscious intent, to build and sustain relationships that encourage co-operation and foster trust and respect.


As individuals, we hold ourselves responsible for developing a depth of understanding of our own unresolved and un-integrated feelings, emotions and fears.


We as individuals are also motivated to combine into co-operative relationships (partnerships, families, pods in a community, communities, etc.). While participating in these relationships and working to accomplish and realize shared goals, friction and conflict is inevitable. A core belief we hold is that conflict arises first and foremost as an internal energetic disturbance/imbalance. In addressing and working to resolve this inner conflict, we agree that the primary emphasis is to address the triggered inner conflict, not the external stimulus that serves to trigger the conflict. We agree to try out, test and, when appropriate, adopt various tools and modalities and become trained in facilitating inner growth.



Some examples of this lifestyle include:



Encouraging each other see the behavior patterns that short-circuit unity and lead to feelings of separation.


Encouraging each other to open-up and re-examine the stories and underlying beliefs that empower our shadowy fears.


Encouraging an ongoing adeptness in knowing when to be gentle and when to be direct and fierce to awaken ourselves and another.


Bringing forward our authentic voice and willingness to dialog, to encourage our individual and collective needs to coalesce into a shared vision, and into joyous activities where we can express and exchange our passions and appreciations.

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The Miracle of Life

I am pleased to announce to the world that my wife Shelby and I are expecting. By that I mean that she’s pregnant with our first child, who has an ETA of April 17, 2011. Needless to say, this a very exciting time for both of us. A miracle is unfolding as we speak :)

To be honest, I never really had any interest in kids up until a year or two ago. Before that, I thought all of my friends were crazy for wanting them. I saw procreation as something that people were just programmed to do, and I didn’t feel that same software running in me. But, as I started realizing that the secret to life’s beauty and perfection lay in the eyes of innocence, I started paying more attention to children, especially infants, and how they view this world. That was the kindling that started the flame of interest.

When you look at a wide-eyed baby staring at everything around them for the first time ever, it can give you an appreciation for the miracle of being present only to this moment, in all its glory. They see everything without a story, without judgments. They are born free from preconceived notions and beliefs, and completely open to what life has to offer (that doesn’t necessarily mean they like everything it has to offer). Infants have no fear of gaping at other people, or doing other things that adults tend to be embarrassed by, because they are ego-less beings. Babies are like little Buddhas, staring through untainted eyes, inviting us to do the same if we are willing.

As my appreciation for infants deepened, my desire to have a baby increased as well. It was like my biological clock had finally started ticking, and my wife and I started seriously talking about having a baby for the first time in our almost 20 year relationship. It was finally time.

Once the magic stick appeared with a pink plus sign, we were both excited, but it didn’t seem real until our first real Doctor’s appointment, where we got to see a little dancing being on the computer screen. Here was this tiny little organism that would one day be a human being.

That’s when I started visualizing holding our child for the first time, staring into its all knowing eyes, while I cry tears of joy at what a beautiful miracle this Life is. How magical it is to be able to create life. It’s something I always took for granted until it dawned on me how magnificent it really is. Life has been giving birth to Life since the beginning of time, and I never really appreciated it until now. I now understand why they refer to babies as little Bundles of Joy, because that’s exactly what they are. I tear up just thinking about seeing him or her smiling for the first time :)

It may seem to go without saying, but everyone you see around you was a tiny little Bundle of Joy at one point (technically we all started as tadpoles, but that’s neither here nor there). Imagine that! Every person that you meet is still that same innocent baby all dressed up in a mask. We start weaving our identity masks at young ages, and have them well crafted by adulthood, but nothing underneath has really changed since the day we were born. If you really take a close look at a stranger or a loved one, you can see the child in them, hiding under that mask. When you set aside your own mask, and look at the world through the eyes of the child you once were (and still are), you can see the innocence of others reflected back at you. It’s almost as if our mask creates theirs.

I’m ready for little baby Boo (our nick name for him/her) to show me the way to unmasked Love, though it’s hard to imagine not breaking down into tears of joy each time I look into those eyes. As you can probably tell, I am very excited about being a father (it still sounds kinda weird to say that), and I’m glad we waited until we were older to have a child because I needed to feel this sense of gratitude in order to be the best possible parent.

I could write for hours on this subject, but let me just end by saying, “Here’s to the miracle we call Life and all the Love it has to bring.” <3

In Peace and Love,
Trey
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AUTHORING FROM OUR AUTHENTIC AUTHORITY

© 2010 Howard McQueen


We give away our power to continue dynamically authoring our life

forgetting we are always @Choice to step into and embody our innate authority.


Most of the time, we become challenged to be @Choice

over the small things,

like feeling interrupted or not feeling heard.

And, because of past patterns that have left us with blind spots,

we blindly repeat patterns that create separation

from our inner, authentic authority.


It is really important to see what is really going on

in order to effect a shift in these victim-perpetrator stories.

If I fail to step into my courage and loose my voice

because I have the sensation that someone/something external has challenged my authority,

I have no business becoming frustrated or being mad or holding someone else responsible.

This merely perpetuates the originating experience when, as a young child, I was in a position of powerlessness.


That I am still behaving as if someone can seemingly wield power over me

reveals that I am still stuck in a repeating pattern,

that I still believe in the old story, thus perpetuating it,

that I am not remembering that just a touch of courage and encouragement

will dissolve all these stories

and allow me to be in touch with my innate, authentic authority.


This authority rests in love: love for self, love for the heart of humankind, love for speaking the truth and embodying what Parker Palmer calls


“a fidelity to the best potentials of the human spirit”.


Fidelity has such a musical, energetic quality, such a sense of tuning into the wondrous sensations of what the soul, through our Anam Cara, holds in store for us.


When we are willing to be in the moment and realize that we are, even in the extreme discomfort of challenging circumstances, fully @Choice.


Granted, life can at any moment send just about anything our way. That we are at best, a navigator and, to continue writing our experience, we must be grand interpreters to open wide and bring in all life offers us. We so often forget that we are written into the great Shakespearean playing out of life.


What a most incredible ride, that we can indeed be @Choice and have a sense of authority, without having any degree of control. Not an easy consciousness to embody and hold steady, where there is so much distracting surface noise and agitation.


Love is our softening agent, allowing is to be @Choice and free to accept life and constantly navigate to stay in the dynamic flow of the unknown.


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